Trust in Jesus

Hello Friends,

I must be honest. I have all sorts of post material brewing in my brain, but none of them are quite right. Perfect Love, Ugly Green Eyes, and Big Flirt are some titles coming your way. I also have a post mulling around in my head about complaining. However, there’s nothing completed, and friends, I worked last night, and I am tired. Today I’m sending you just a blip of a blessing to help you smile today.

I heard this song the other day for the first time, and it blessed my heart. Here’s a blessing blip coming your way 🙂

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2BtaCeJYqZA

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Young Love

For my unmarried, younger friends who feel they might be in love . . .

A few days ago, I mentioned that I was reading through my diaries with my husband, and they were super funny. My husband and I were hooting with laughter over some of the entries. One particularly funny story was about my preteen self having an argument with my parents over how to make a correct peanut butter and jelly sandwich, and I was writing about it like it was the literal end of the world!

It was also very sweet to watch myself, as I turned the pages of my diary, fall in love with my husband. Oh, and did I mention that I was 16 at that time? Wait! I thought that teenagers were only capable of puppy love that flits from crush to crush with no sense of deep feeling or devotion. A teenager’s crush can not last! They are still growing themselves. They don’t even know who they are yet! How can they know what they want in a life long partner? Teenagers are meant to date around and have fun. How can they actually fall in love?

1 Timothy 4:12 Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.

Many of the Godly married couples, whom my husband and I admire today, fell in love in their teenage years and got married in their 20’s. I got married at age twenty four, and during my engagement, a lady that I work with was encouraging me to wait longer. “Blush, you don’t really even know who you are yet” she told me. I had many other people telling me that I was way too young to be getting married. I felt as if they were “looking down” on me because I was young. Your numerical age is just the amount of years you’ve been on this earth, but it has little to do with your maturity level or your relationship with God. When older people scoff at your sixteen year old crush, don’t fight them about it, but also, don’t you start regarding yourself as a silly sixteen year old with an unimportant crush. You’re not. Not every crush leads to the discovery of your soul mate, in fact most of them don’t. Out of all the people that your heart is inclined towards during your life, only ONE of them will be your marriage partner. This does not mean that you can act foolishly.  No matter your age, you should treat your crushes carefully and prayerfully.

Perfect One                                                                                                                                           Before I even met my now husband, I had a crush that I was falling hard for. He was Godly and always wanted to have Bible studies with me. He would wink at me and treat me special, and I just KNEW he was the one. One day, I found him sitting by himself outside, and he seemed upset. I walked over and stood beside him as he sat on the ground. I asked him what was wrong, and he looked up at me and said, “here, sit next to me” as he patted the ground next to him. I cannot exactly explain what happened except that I felt God say, “no.” I wanted to sit down with every ounce of my being, but God said, “no.” My knees were about to revolt into a bend anyway as my heart begged to sit next to the man of my dreams, but I stayed in the standing position because God said, “no.” Later that year, he stopped winking at me or having Bible studies. I felt heart broken, but I knew that God said, “no.” No matter how perfect that girl or guy may seem, if God says, “no” that means there is somebody more perfect out there. Don’t settle for your idea of perfect. Listen to God.

 Perfect Timing                                                                                                                           While your crush might actually be “the one,” it may not be God’s timing which is just as important as finding God’s person.  When I was sixteen, my now husband had just given his life to the Lord. I was writing in my diary that I liked this new boy in church who had just gotten saved, but I knew that I should wait. It was hard, but I knew that I should not treat it as a “silly crush.” Flirting, dating, and just having fun would have been detrimental to him and most likely our chance at a future relationship. Interestingly enough, my husband had a crush on me at the same exact time! Even though we both liked each other, if it’s not God’s timing, it’s wrong. There is no magic age that God wants you to wait for, but there might be some type of growing or maturing that he is trying to perfect in you (or your crush) before giving you the green light to date. No matter what your parents tell you or your friends tell you, if God is tugging your heart to wait and not start dating, you had better wait – for your own good.

Perfect Love – There is so much to say here that I’m going to save it for another post.

This post is getting a little lengthy. Let me end with this: Please, understand that I am not saying that you will find your one true love at a young age. Many people go on to accomplish great things in the Lord and even earthly accomplishments while they are single, and then they find their true love in their 30’s or 40’s. Some people take a wrong turn somewhere along the way, and it takes a while to get back on God’s path. Remember, God is sovereign, and he has a different plan for each person. Just because you are young now does not mean you should treat your crushes with selfishness and frivolity. Don’t “look down” on yourself. Instead, “set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.”

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Gotta Dolla?

A while back, a friend of mine noticed my Love Glass in my room and said, “Blush, I expected a lot more dollar bills in there by now.” She was serious. I was very suprised. I thought we had plenty of money in there, and I got all defensive saying, “Ya, but did you see all the change at the bottom. Sometimes we don’t have bills on us, and we use change . . . Also, the idea didn’t come to me until eight months after I was married. Oh, and we forgot a couple of times to put a dollar in, and so there are some fives to make up for it – see the fives . . . ?” By this point, my (unmarried) friend was chuckling and seemed uninterested in the subject all together. Later, I was thinking about why I got defensive and why her initial reaction was to compare my Love Glass to what she thought was “normal.” Here’s what I came up with.

First of all, it’s in our human nature to compare, and we can’t control other people’s perceptions. My friend didn’t mean anything by it. She was only making an honest observation. She expected more dollar bills.

Second of all, I can help my reaction. At first, I thought that my Love Glass was too empty when my friend made her observation, but I know quite well that our Love Glass has a fine amount of volume. Our Love Glass is something that I’m proud of, and while I keep it in the privacy of our bed room, it’s something I love to look at. Our Love Glass was not meant to be compared with other people’s Love Glasses. It is not some kind of measurement of marital success. It’s a symbol of our love and intimacy, and watching it grow is exciting. We haven’t decided on using it for our 5 year or 10 year anniversary or quite how we’re going to use it yet, but that doesn’t keep us from saving up!

My favorite phrase: Gotta Dolla? (Got a dollar? – interpreted for the slang impaired)

Keep a dollar handy to use for your Love Glass! May God bless you and your home 🙂

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Prayer

Happy Wednesday my friends 🙂

For my post today, I’m going to copy one of the prayers from “The Power of a Praying Wife” by Stormie Omartian. It will be verbatim except for the small changes to make it a prayer for a husband as well as a wife. It is from page 197 – her prayer for faith in our spouses. Let’s pray . . .

“Lord, I pray that You will give (spouse’s name) an added measure of faith today. Enlarge his/her ability to believe in You, Your Word, Your promises, Your ways, and Your power.  Put a longing in his/her heart to talk with You and hear Your voice.  Give him/her an understanding of what it means to bask in Your presence and not just ask for things.  May he/she seek You, rely totally upon You, be led by You, put You first, and acknowledge You in everything he/she does.

Lord, You’ve said that ‘faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God’ (Romans 10:17).  Feed his/her soul with Your Word so his/her faith grows big enough to believe that with You all things are possible (Matthew 10:26).  Give him/her unfailing certainty that what You’ve promised to do, You will do (Romans 4:21).  Make his/her faith a shield of protection.  Put it into action to move the mountains in his/her life.  Your Word says, ‘the just shall live by faith’ (Romans 1:17);  I pray that he/she will live the kind of faith-filled life You’ve called us all to experience.  May he/she know with complete certainty ‘how great is Your goodness,  Which You have laid up for those who fear You, which You have prepared for those who trust in You’ (Psalm 31:19).

In Jesus’ Name – Amen!

PS – You could pray this prayer for yourself too by substituting a “me” or “I” for the he/she parts.

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Night Shift

Good morning everybody – I’m going straight to bed.

I work at a hospital where the nurses either do permanent nights or they rotate day shift and night shift. I’m a rotator, and I just worked last night. I also go in tonight again.

I don’t prefer nights for a couple of reasons. One, I turn into a vampire. There is something about a long run of night shift that makes me feel like I’m part of a different society – sleeping during the day and awake at night. It’s a society of darkness, and after drawing people’s blood in the wee hours of the morning, I’m pretty sure my skin will sparkle if I ever dared to brave the sunlight (please pardon the Twilight reference – I know not what I do).

The second, more pressing reason that I don’t like night shift is that I miss my husband. I know – I know – I know “Oh, Blush, you’re such a newly wed. One day you’ll be REJOICING for these breaks from your husband.” This is what I’m told by older married folk everywhere. They say that it’s not your actual love for him decreasing. I’ll just get tired of having him around all the time. I certainly don’t feel that way now, though. When I leave for work, my husband hasn’t come home from his job, and when I get home after a night shift, he has already left for work. It can be a real drag if I work three days in a row like this. We completely miss each other. We hate it. On a positive note, it makes us more eager to see each other when we are home at the same time. It probably makes our times together that much more special, but all of that positivity is just me trying to be positive. Right now, I just miss my husband, and I can’t think about the specialness of when I will get to see him Tuesday night. I wanted to see him today. I know – I sound like a bratty kid. I probably just need a good nap. Have a great day and remember to treat your spouse with extra loving since you get to see them today 🙂 (Wow – I’m such a spoiled little urchin. I told you I needed a nap! Good night.)

Do you have conflicting schedules sometimes? Do you enjoy the short separation or do you dislike it?  Do you think it is healthy for spouses to be separate once in a while?

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Shut up and Pray

The Phantom of the Opera by Gaston Leroux is one of my favorite books. I like fiction books. My husband likes to read autobiographies and other history type books, but neither of us read non-fiction “self-help” style books, until now. He is reading “The Power of a Praying Husband” while I read “The Power of a Praying Wife.” It’s taking us a while to get through them since neither of us particularly enjoys this style of book, but we’ve found them insightful. I would like to share an idea that the author, Stormie Omartian, brings up a bunch of times in “The Power of a Praying Wife.” It’s such a great idea, and I thought it deserved to be mentioned to all you married folk out there.

“Shut up and pray.”

When there is a disagreement, each side feels like they need to explain, re-explain, explain with an illustration, argue while pointing at the illustration, and then push the illustration up to the spouse’s nose because they are obviously blind if they still disagree.  Stormie explains that instead of our first reaction being an argument, we should “shut up and pray.” She is not just saying we should do this about the “big arguments” (buying a house, where to send the kids to school), but we should do this about the “little things” too. For example, she brings up a time in chapter 11 of her book when she was trying to get her husband to exercise. She would plead with him for the sake of his health, but it didn’t work. She decided to use her own “shut up and pray” advice. Months later, God moved on her husband’s heart, and he started exercising without any encouragement from her! She has many other testimonies similar when she started to “shut up and pray,” and I can’t wait to share with you some of my testimonies as I start to do this myself! It seems fitting that we should end this post with a prayer.

Lord, I lift up (husband/wife) and our marriage. I want to honor you by being peaceful and loving in our marriage instead of pushy or argumentative. I pray that you would move on my (husband’s/wife’s) heart, and that I would trust you. Also, move on my heart that I would care more about your will than my own adgenda. Teach me to “shut up and pray” as my first reaction to conflict. Please, teach me to really listen to my (husband’s/wife’s) side as well.  If I must say something, give me sweet words that would resolve conflict rather than stir it up. I thank you for (husband/wife), and although we disagree sometimes, I know you will lead us through it and bind us stronger together than we ever were before. I love you, Lord. In Jesus’ Name I pray, Amen.

PS – I highly recommend these books by Stormie Omartian – The Power of a Praying Wife and The Power of a Praying Husband.

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Memories

I was one of those kids who kept a diary, and for whatever reason, I decided to look through them last night with my husband. They were hilarious!!! Oh the woes of my thirteen year old self. Then, in the later years, I read about how I started falling in love with my husband, and what I thought about him. It was really fun to read that with him, and I felt like it brought us closer together.

I haven’t written in a diary in years.  Instead, I write notes to my husband, and they can be very sweet to read later on too. Just a nice idea that I would like to leave you with on this lovely Sunday afternoon – write notes to each other. You don’t have to be particularly articulate or flowery. The notes don’t even have to be “love letters.” You could write a thank you note. Write a note about what a great time you had last night 😉 Write a note with a scripture. Encouraging notes can be priceless.  The point is, besides the good effects of a note given today, those notes can serve as a physical rememberance of your growing love for each other later.  Someday, forty years from now, those notes will be treasured snapshots of steps taken in your marriage. Being not even married two years, I can not personally tell you how that would feel, but it sounds amazing.

Write your spouse a note of any kind today. I have a place where I keep the notes from my husband, and he has a place where he puts his notes from me. Do you do this already? Are you going to start? Did you keep a diary? Do you still?

Have a wonderful Sunday! May God bless you and your home.

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