Divorce

This was read at our wedding while our moms braided a rope together, and I think there is a beautiful message here.

  Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:   If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.    Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?   Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

I bolded all the times that two is used – meaning two people.  Then, the last line says. “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Who is the third cord? God.

According to the CDC in 2009, 6.8 people out of every 1000 got married, and 3.4 out of every 1000 got divorced. http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/divorce.htm We are getting married two times as often as getting divorced. I guess that’s not as bad as I thought the statistic would be. Even so, I know that divorce was not in God’s original plan. Marriage is meant to be a life long covenant.

Divorce always causes pain and leaves unfinished business. A few years ago, I went to the fanciest wedding I’ve ever been to. Extraordinary money had to be spent on it, and the couple got divorced only five months later! It was a very sad and hurtful time for both parties involved, but in addition, they are left paying for that lavish wedding for years to come. Some divorced couples have another bit of unfinished business to be dealt with – raising children in a separated home. Adding children into the mix of divorce is another whole dynamic that makes divorce even less palatable. (With all that said, I personally believe that divorce is sometimes absolutely necessary. There is no judgment here for people that have had their past marriages end. Toxic or abusive marriages are not God’s will either, but that is why hearing God’s direction before tying the knot is crucial also. That is a post for another time, though.)

Sometimes, I joke with my husband saying, “You know how everybody that gets married eventually gets divorced? Can we just skip that part? I’d really rather just stay married the whole time.” He usually laughs and agrees, but we know this simple agreement isn’t enough.

We know that “two are better than one”, but “a cord of THREE strands is not quickly broken.” We need to continually ask God to work in our lives which in turn gives strength to us individually and our marriage.

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2 Responses to Divorce

  1. Adam's Eve says:

    What a beautiful Biblical analogy God gives us with the cord of three strands! And that’s a really cool idea to have both of your moms braid a rope together while the verse was read. We gave everyone a candle at our wedding. When it came time to light the unity candle (my mother-in-law made for us), we had the ushers light the candle of the last person in the last row on both sides of the sanctuary and they passed the light all through the congregation while the pastor read Matthew 5:14-16 illustrating how important it was for us to keep our light burning and how the people in our lives played a part in unifying us in the Body of Christ. And as a side note, it’s a reminder of how our relationship with each other and God affects everyone around us.

  2. Blush says:

    Very sweet – that sounds beautiful with all the candles.

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