Proverbs 15:13 – A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit.
Here’s some fun information that you probably already knew but didn’t think about all together in relation to your marriage.
1. Research has clearly shown that people who smile more are healthier and happier. It has been scientifically proven that just by making the facial expression of the smile (not feeling happy – just smiling randomly) actually releases endorphins and other “happy” hormones in your body. Smiling can actually make you happy (even if you start out unhappy). I read about a German study where people held a small pen clenched in their teeth (forcing the smiling expression), and they reported feeling happier. There are many other studies proving the same thing.
2. Smiling is contagious. When other people are smiling (and the same goes for laughing), it triggers you to smile or laugh along. Even just reading the words “smile” and “laugh” have been proven to evoke the same physiological changes that actually feeling happy do. Smile, smile, smile, SMILE – laugh! laugh!!! LAUGH LAUGH (Did it work? Are you smiling? I know I am!). Oh, and the opposite of both of these points are true. Making a frown can dampen your mood, and being unhappy is also contagious.
Let’s think about these two points 1. Smiling even when you’re unhappy can change your mood 2. Smiling is contagious. Hmm – so what does that say about our homes? Well, it seems quite clear what point I’m trying to make. Sometimes, “you gotta fake it till you make it” – at least when it comes to being happy, especially because smiling is contagious!
For example, the other day I walked in the door after work with a pout on my face. My husband said, “what’s wrong?” In all honesty, nothing was wrong. I didn’t realize that my face was frowning, but it was. Maybe I was tired. I don’t know, and so my response was, “nothing is wrong.” Well, this response didn’t pan out so well, and now, because my face was in a pout, my husband was convinced that I was upset but wasn’t telling him. Then, I was upset because I couldn’t convince him that I was perfectly fine. How hilarious is that! I actually laughed about it (which truly convinced him that I wasn’t upset about anything because I SMILED). All this because I was frowning! The frown was contagious (my husband got upset). Then, I smiled and laughed, and the whole situation was diffused. He smiled too.
I understand that usually there are more technicalities to deal with in settling an issue. Smiling by itself usually won’t fix the whole matter. Sometimes smiling can come off as condescending or patronizing, but generally speaking, if you keep a smile on your face – even when you don’t feel particularly happy – it will improve the mood of your home. Say CHEESE 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂